Stephanie De luna '20 Recruiting Profile

People are unable to be independent for a variety of reasons.one I've noticed the most was the fear of being alone. While writing this I sit here and realized how much I have changed over the years and how far I have made it on my own. Over the years,  I always depended on someone to keep me going. I always felt like I needed someone by my side to feel confident. In middle school I have been bullied my whole life and because of that I never believed in myself .I always wanted someone to make my life choices for me but slowly growing up I realized that there is more to life than just making friends or making people like you. I see that in this world not everyone is going to like you ,some people will just be by your side to see you fail ,but when I reached Junior year in high school my whole mentality changed drastically. I never imagined myself being independent the way I am now.  Some of the lessons I have learned over the course of time are to Make decisions by and for yourself, like picking what classes I should take for college or even where to work Don't ask for advice, do what you want and learn from your own mistakes.

The ability to be independent is something that not everyone realizes. You need to be independent in order to survive in the world. Learning to support yourself is amazing for any success you ever hope to achieve. When I reached Junior year my life got ten times harder. More school work and having the idea of college is stressful or even focusing on getting scholarships and having to handle a job all at once is very stressful. Only then I learned to be independent. In high school I saw people's true colors and how not everyone is out there to do you good. There are many negative people that I thank today because if it wasn't for them I wouldn’t be as independent as I am now, As I get older I  start to realize not everyone is going to benefit you in your life you have to grow up and do things for yourself. Bullying played a big role in my life it made me stronger made me realize that I am better on my own and seeing no one defend me during those hard times made me see that no one really got your back the way you think they do. If it wasn’t for ¨bullying” I wouldn’t be as independent as I am now on my own I focus on my life goals or my future and no one else. At the end of the day, you only have yourself to fall back on, so it is very important to be able to handle things on your own. It is all about being secure with who you are and what you believe in. It is way better knowing that you are in control of your own life and your own choices. It is much more beneficial to listen to the voice inside. I learning how to be independent is a big advantage in my life because when I start going to college I know my friends won't be there to guide me, when I get into a university that I want to get into I know I'll get my work done I know I'll bring the best effort for go far with the Career that I'm pursuing I will prove to myself that I never needed anyone to keep me going and prove to my university that I am a great student that will be committed to studying.